tomjasz wrote:
Why so many problems with Facebook. FFS don't friend anyone you don't like, eliminate anyone that presents a problem. Done. I don't understand the drama.
It's definitely caused problems with me in the past.
For a lot of people it's one of a few situations where they're inundated with other people's lives. One of the situations where people find it easy to let their imaginations run wild about things. Its' easy for people to get caught up in their own interpretation of the world via FB.
It's ingestion without feedback. You never really know what the other person's intentions are - no matter how explicit it's made. You see what's put out there, and without that feedback, you ingest, interpret, etc. Like reading a book rather than having a conversation. It's the illusion of interaction, when it's all one way. Outward.
There've been studies that show that type of consumption makes people unhappy. That we curate what we put out there, with no conversation about it, and we put out what is "the best" representation of us, etc, and then others get upset about how their lives measure up, etc.
I maintain a lot of connections on it, admittedly, but ultimately VERY few people on it know what's actually going on in my life. It's fascinating. That's stuff I keep to myself and a handful of people. It's that very same curation that causes issues. Public vs. private persona, even if it's not totally public (I post stuff only to friends, for the most part).
I have removed friends, and been removed, I'm sure, countless times. Is what it is, and I don't let it get me bent. Can't. The people who I care about are in my life with or without Facebook.
Of course, when I answered this thread, it had nothing to do with FB
And that story continues to be untold