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My thoughts are with you, Rich. And you are right, Sucks is the only fitting description for the loss of a family member.

I have no words....

DAD
It was August 2002. Cancer. He really suffered.

2012. Old wounds were opened when I nursed my beloved friend through to his demise. Cancer again.
I'm still angry. I'm still sad. I'm still...a bit lost.

Do what you need to. Scream, cry, laugh, drink to excess if you must. Pray if you believe.

Whatever you do, live a wonderful life for him.

They would want us to.

Deep regards
Tom

I am very sorry for your loss.
Been through this w/both mom and dad when in my mid 20s, I'm now in my mid 40's...we all have our own unique way of mourning and grieving those we've loved who've moved on ... and if it feels right for YOU, then it is the right way. In other words, be kind to yourself through this, and I promise it will get better in time. If I can jump through this screen and give you a hug I would give you that...and my shoulder too, if you needed it.

My condolences Rich. Peace be with you and your family.

I lost my Dad in January 2001. He was 66 years old and died in surgery.

It IS hard, people who haven't gone through it DON'T know what it's like, (but say things like "I know how you feel". No, you don't.), but given time, it DOES get easier. It's all about time, being the great healer that it is.

You'll go through the roller-coaster ride of emotions - denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Take your time, work through it, seek counselling if you can, and you'll come through this.

Most of all, remember that your MV family has considerable experience of this (sadly) and we're all here for you Brother.

Peace.

So sorry, Rich. I lost my mum four years ago. When I was reading that "When I grow old, I will wear purple" poem at the service, I lost it pretty badly. When I tried to say "this is hard" it came out about two octaves higher than my speaking voice. I still wish that I could have gotten through that without the tears, but that's one of the things that I inherited from her. I can cry on cue!

My dad, who will be 88 this year, had a big scare last year, but is doing well. It's a matter of time for all of us, but it sure does hurt when they go. I'm so sorry for your loss, and will be thinking of you and your family. Hang in there.

So sorry to hear of your loss.

My condolences Rich. Take care of yourself and your loved ones.

Eternal peace be upon him.

My sincerest condolences. It's tough losing a parent. Life changes forever.

Sending thoughts of deepest sympathy, Rich.

My dad died when I was 11 years old (1980), and I recently found this book that helped me understand the complex feelings of loss:
http://www.amazon.com/Fatherloss-Sons-Terms-Deaths-Their/dp/0786865326

Wishing you and your family comfort in the good memories of your father.

Andy

I am really sorry to hear of your lost. I have walked that path myself. Its kind of like trying to explain to someone who doesn't ride. Why we do it. You pain is unique to you alone. You feel it in a personal deep way. No one can truly understand it, but its part of who you are and the memories you carry. My suggestion, get a group a friends together and ride for your Dad. Show him the he can be proud of who you are and he will always be with you.

I am truly sorry for your loss. I have lost a brother, and more recently, my Father. As others have said, it sucks.

You will be in our family prayers.

My dad died in 1957 when I was 9. I still find myself thinking about him. It never gets easier; it just gets calmer.
Bless you and your family.

Sorry to hear of your loss.

Rpoinvil1-I don't know why I just clicked on your post. I just did. But I just wanted to say that your comment - quote
'I don't even feel bad for myself. I feel bad that the world lost someone that was a great human being', would make any father extremely proud of the son they raised, so now it's time for you to be proud of having a great dad.
Hope that made sense!
You gotta have pretty big shoulders to carry your family thru the next few weeks, but I reckon you'll do just fine.
From one total stranger to another.
Kneill.

To MV'ers,
I was not able to come back to this post till today. There were some time constraints here and there but, for the most part, I was not ready. I read through all of your replies and I don't know the words to use to signify the support that I feel in my heart and body right now. My mournful state was a lot better but your replies made things feel complete (or more complete). There were some tears towards the end of my reading but now I am just kind of happy and feel more resilient than I did before I started reading. I'm not sure if you all "get" my described feelings.

Second, I got a Yamaha FRJ1300 recently and there was talk about getting rid of my BV250 because it didn't seem to make sense keeping 2 bikes. I really like both bikes and I considered the FJR a step up. I've visited some FJR forums and they seem like good people. BUT, MV has HEART, humor. compassion, a more distinctive passion and that something else that I can't put my finger on. That intangible that just feels good.

What I am trying to say is if it comes down to getting rid of the BV250 or the FJR1300. The Piaggio is staying, mostly because my heart is part of MV and MV'ers are part of my heart. You are all part of my heart.

Thank you ,
Rich

Rich,

I get it. Very well expressed, Sir.

Welcome back.
Steve H/B

Rich,

My condolences to you during these tougher times. You will be down and up and all over. I am glad to hear you being positive through these harder times. I have not lost my parents but came very close in the past couple of years to losing both, father in ICU and had his leg amputated twice plus his rehabilitation, and I cared for my mother daily for 3 months through her cancer treatment and recovery, and supported my mother when she lost her mom. Loss of any sort is very hard. Unless we go before our parents, we all will experience this loss. It is heartbreaking but we all will experience it. My heart goes out to you.

I as well have grown fond of so many on this website and made friends for life. We all just "get" each other. Hugs.

Mine passed 5/25/2014
I was holding him in hospital when he drew his last.
After loosing my mother (they where 60 years married) on Christmas day 2013, they where both sick through December, he survived the pneumonia...but, multiple relapse with congestive heart failure, kidney failure and pain from the loss of mom.....

I know your pain....

I get it too Rich. Welcome back.

Great pic EvilNerdLord.