Bill Dog wrote:
Na, that's not what I'm getting at.
If you are unhappy and in a position to change your circumstances then change them.
But I'm not unhappy here. In fact, I'm happier here than I've ever been at any previous job.
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If you still can and you choose not to then repeated complaining about it is a bit pointless and the listener will eventually tune out.
When this happens the complainer will often figure out a resolution a lot quicker to their plight because the listener has given up on supporting them.
You've all had that friend whose in a shitty relationship who visits every 3 months to vent and because you care, you listen but then the process is repeated 3 months later ? Don't do that. Don't pander. Let them figure it out for themselves.
This isn't aimed at anyone in here. It's a generalised observation.
But I'm not asking anyone here for a resolution. Like others (and I) have said, I'm venting about some things that, at worst, are mildly annoying for a bit.
That coworker who refused to listen and help? We work together just fine. We still interact with each other in a positive manner.
The loss of the outside clients has nothing to do with my job or how I do it. It was a financial decision made several levels above me. And my clients have taken the news very well.
The cold AC vent blowing air at my desk? I'd rather it be too cold when I'm not busy than comfortable or hot. If it's too cold now, when Texas summers hit and/or we're busy, I'll be comfortable. If it was a comfortable temperature now, my desk area would be uncomfortably warm in the summer, and I'd be sweating as soon as we got busy.
Any change of jobs would most likely be to one that I wouldn't be as happy with. I'd get paid less (money isn't everything, but it does help, and my wife still isn't employed, so we need all the income we can get). I'd probably have lesser benefits. Like theayn, I have a good retirement plan here.
I love what I do. If I didn't, I wouldn't have stayed in this industry for 30+ years. My supervisors/managers all value my contributions and opinions.
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Also.
What people seem to miss that the English like things a bit crap because it validates us to complain about it.
The Paradox is that complaining about something is often a cover as it's actually an icebreaker to see if someone agrees with us.
It's like a negative conversation about the weather.
I understand this. And it's not what I'm looking for. I see some complaints from others here (including you), and don't always see why it's an issue. But I don't stress about it, I simply keep scrolling and move on with my life.