Sorry in advance for being long winded but I think it's a good story and could help others.
This new posting is a followup to these 2 previous postings.
Selector Box to Shim or not to Shim?
Gears as in a source for Large Frame VBB
I thought at first I solved the issue of the neutral clicking and jumping out of 4th gear with Jack 221's idea of the "cruciform rod has come unscrewed"
I removed the Selector Box and yes the Selector Rod had come unscrewed about a turn and a half.
I tightened it and re-bent the washer. That made it worse as I needed it to be longer. Then I had this great idea of taking my extra Selector Box and milling it 1.5 mm less. (I have a Bridgeport mill at work) I also bought 2 Selector Box shim kits to shim it out if I went too far with the milling.
With no shims and no gasket it was better, the clicking in neutral was less but 3rd gear was iffy and could not get it into 4th.
So back to the drawing board as they say.