Lemme start with a really basic question: Why did you install an upgraded clutch in the first place?
Assuming you still have the original clutch, have you tried installing it to see if the issues resolve? If so, maybe you just roll with that.
I have some pretty respectable motors (17-18 HP) that do just fine with a stock seven spring clutch. That thing doesn't get nearly enough credit, IMO.
I also have much much serious motors with BGM Superstrong clutches, which are COSA2 derivatives and cause a lot more of the sorts of issues you're struggling with, so lemme kick out some thoughts and suggestions in the form of questions.
There are lots of good suggestions in here already, but they don't seem to be working for you, so let's stop and reset for a moment.
Fix_it_with_fire wrote:
Also does anybody make an actuator arm thingy that has a better system? Maybe a small roller and adjuster that the cable can go thru instead of just metal on metal action all the time?
You'd have to ditch your ball bearing pressure plate, or get the one that doesn't have the top hat integrated into it, but
Crimaz make a pinion gear plunger set that might work for you.
I tried it in one of my bikes and it didn't press square on the plate, causing off-center contact and rapid failure, which was extremely disappointing, but I put it more on the clutch cover than their design.
So with that glowing endorsement, I'd suggest you go back to basics.
While it seems simple in theory, as you've noted, there's more complexity/ingenuity in the clutch system than one would think. Your issue seems to be that there's not adequate compression range for the clutch itself.
This gives you two options:
1) adjust the height of the clutch to better match the compression range of the cover. This is the route you've taken thus far, adding the millimeter spacer to the pressure plate (which was pretty genius, btw
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2) Increase the compression range by increasing the headset lever travel range or decreasing the clutch arm length. I'd suggest the former, as the latter is going be a lot harder to pull off successfully and will also reduce mechanical advantage and make the clutch stiffer overall.
This leads me to want to see comparative pictures of your old versus new lever.
Is it possible that the new lever has less travel than the original?
If so, or even if not, you could also grind back the new lever to add more travel. I had to do that with the front brake on my smallie to work right with the disc brake's master cylinder. Works great and you'd never know it to look.
Alternately, I know you said you have new cables (and pretty much everything else), but...
Are you 100% certain that the clutch cable routing is correct, the outer is the correct length, the ends are fully seated into their housings?
They should naturally tend to seat themselves since the clutch arm provides constant pressure, but can't hurt to check. If you didn't measure the cable length, they are frequently 6-12" too long ("For a Grade A Repair," my ass) and need to be trimmed back for optimal performance
Can you turn the clutch arm easily in the cover when the cover is off the motor? i.e. is there any more resistance than just the spring?
Does the clutch compress and spin more-or-less freely in a clutch compressor tool?
Is the clutch correctly assembled with the plates in the correct sequence and alignment? If yes, how do you know?
Have you considered adding an even thicker base spacer/thrust washer?
Are you certain your existing thrust washer is not worn?
Any of these can cause the sorts of issues you're describing.