seamus26 wrote:
And another thing (says the old man still shaking his fists at the sky) what is it with younger people and the need for "a career that is fulfilling and validating"? Work is work. It's a means to an end. My job / career pays my bills so I can enjoy my life outside of work. They call it work because it's work. If it were called "Happy fun time that makes you feel good and we have a ball pit and a juice bar" everyone would be doing it. But it isn't.
Having spent decades doing a very well paid job that I hate, for exactly the reasons you've listed, I told my children to consider that option carefully. I made my choice, I've done well by it, and I don't regret it. But I'm not sure there are a lot of people of any generation who could face decades at a job they loathe. I can say confidently it's not easy.
Darling Bride on the other hand, chose a career in Volunteer Services. She has worked in hospitals and charities being the person that recruits, trains, places and manages those who volunteer their time. She absolutely finds it to be 'fulfilling and validating'. She comes home confident that her efforts make our corner of the world a better place. Until recently (with a very significant promotion) she made a lot less money than I did. She also had a much easier time going to work in the morning.
Would she have been as happy had she not been married to, and reaped the financial benefits of, someone who made the choices I did? Impossible to say, but I held both of those examples up to our children as valid options, and advised them to carefully balance the financial rewards of their work with how much satisfaction they expect to take from that work. One of them seems inclined to follow my path, the other will likely wind up closer to his mother's. Both are valid choices, as long as they've gone in cognizant of the long term implications of their decisions.